Helicopter Parenting and How to Stop Being One
Do you call your college kid more than eight times a week? Have you ever asked a teacher about your child’s grade? Does making your child’s homework become a daily task for you? If these scenarios sound familiar to you, newsflash—you might be a helicopter parent!
The Negative Effects of Helicopter Parenting to Your Child
A helicopter parent is someone who hovers closely over their child. The word “helicopter” is coined by Dr. Haim Ginnott and first appeared in his book Between Parent and Teenager. Dr. Ginnott mentioned that this type of parenting may appear normal and could oftentimes be perceived as harmless parental love. But being too controlling over one’s child could often lead to negative long-term effects. Helicopter parenting prevents the child from developing basic survival skills and independence. When the child grows up, he is likely to suffer from self-insufficiency, low self-worth, and even depression.
Here are some attributes of Helicopter Parenting
- Keeping the child at arm’s length
Helicopter parents think that their child needs them every step of the way, both literally and metaphorically. These parents prevent the kids from exploring their environment through telling them how to play and where to play. Helicopter parents feel intense fear of losing sight of their child. And the mere thought of the child getting a bruise on the knee becomes a horror story.
- Meddling ALL-THE-TIME
When a child plays with fellow children, chances are he will eventually experience a toy-snatching scenario. It has been customary for parents to step in, but really, there is no need to. If parents keep on handling issues on behalf of their children, these kids will find resolving issues a bit tough when they get older. Kids are smart, too. They have their way of dealing with conflicts, and they can definitely figure things out on their own. The child who wants it more should keep the toy, and the child who wants it less walks away.
- Doing the child’s homework
Sure, parents should help their children do the assignments every now and then. But doing your child’s homework all the time doesn’t only hinder learning but also shows your mistrust to your child’s academic aptitude. Doing what your child can already deal with is not worth the consequence. It limits his confidence and stops him from harnessing his problem-solving skills.
- Micromanaging Activities
How would you like it if someone else plans your activity calendar for you? Not cool. Not cool at all. Helicopter parents bombard their child’s schedule with many activities. Not because these parents want their child to have fun, but because they want their kids to be more appealing to universities.
- Avoiding Germs and Bacteria
There are many things that people use to avoid bacteria. Some examples are antibacterial soap, alcohol-based sanitizer, antiseptic wet towels, so on and so forth. In some way, it is understandable because it is expensive to get sick. Yet, a helicopter parent’s behavior toward germs and bacteria is just downright pointless. Not letting the child do some activities because he or she might catch an illness is a surefire way to make your kid’s childhood less fun.
Parents only want the best interest of their children. But it is just sad to see how this parenting technique creates negative effects on how the kid turns out. Value your child and their decisions. Remember that your child’s choices are as important as yours.