Positive Discipline: The Key to a Happier Parenting
Changing nappies, dealing with tantrums, and keeping toys left on the floor—these are just a few things that come to our mind when thinking about parenting. However, being a parent is more than just fulfilling the essential needs of the kids. It is an around-the-clock profession that requires satisfying the emotional, social, and physiological aspects of children. Raising a well-behaved and respectful kid has been a great challenge for 21st century parents. With eyes glued on tablets, hectic work schedules, and other factors, it is even harder to achieve the goal of raising good kids.
Positive Parenting Tips on how to discipline your kids
“Do not impose on others what you do not wish for yourself.” This is the same rule that applies to parenting. Good parenting is treating your children the way you want to be treated. Stop patronizing them as nobody likes being told what to do and how one should act all the time. Treat them with respect, and provide them with attention. However, make sure to set household rules and stick to them. Below are some useful yet easy steps on how to be a good parent:
10 to 20 minutes—that is all the time you have to spare for your kid. Turn off the TV, keep your phone away, and let the telephone ring. Spend one-on-one time with each of your kids through reading their favorite book, playing a ball game, or simply talking to them. Positive attention will help your kids become more responsive and less likely to seek attention from others. Parents’ lives nowadays are jam-packed with work-related activities and household responsibilities, but think about this as an investment in creating happier and self-sufficient children.
Be consistent with rules
According to psychology, there are four different parenting styles: authoritative, neglectful, permissive, and authoritarian. Authoritative parenting is seen to be the best style while neglectful parenting is seen to be the worst style. On the other hand, permissive parenting is described to be being a nurturing type of relationship but with the absence of rules. The disadvantages of this kind of parenting outweighs the benefits. A household with no limit and structure will produce children who do not have self-discipline and self-control. Positive parenting is creating rules and being consistent with it. If you get flexible with the rules, kids will later ignore them. Remember that children should obey the parents and household regulations should apply to everyone.
Be a good example
Children are good imitators and observe how adults handle situations and show emotions. Kids who have seen a lot of negative reaction from people around them can be intensely affected. This will later cause behavioral problems that will affect how kids socialize with other people. So as a parent, it is imperative to be emotionally nurturing of children and to avoid episodes of anger when the little ones are around.
Don’t Reprimand in Public
It is hard to do parenting when you are in a public place. Strangers will keep an eye on you and people will start observing your actions. Avoid shaming your children in public in the hopes of disciplining them, or worse, in order to please the people around you. A useful advice for parents is to stop thinking about what other people say and choose to be a parent to your child. Be calm and stay neutral. Listen to your child and be empathetic, but never let your child scream at you. Lastly, give your child a choice by asking, “Do you want a hug?” or say something like, “You must be hungry, let’s grab something to eat.”
Praise Your Kids
You may ask—how much is too much? And how much is too little? Although there is no real formula when it comes to giving praises to children, it is important to be sincere when giving one. Infants under 24 months thrive on praises, but older kids are smarter and might question your honesty. An insincere praise may harm the child’s ego and hurt relationships. It is also important when, where, and how to praise. According to a study, overpraising could turn your children into narcissists. Creating an over-inflated ego in our children is the last thing that we want to do. So, avoid lavish and insincere praises and save the genuine ones for bigger accomplishments and greater undertakings.