To Parents of Disrespectful Kids: How to React and Respond Positively
Effective Ways to Discipline Disrespectful Children
Have you ever felt like a doormat in your own home?
Doors slamming, eyes rolling, hands over ears, and screaming right on your face—these are warning bells that tell you to get out of it, now!
According to Dr. Leonard Sax, a psychologist and family physician for over twenty-seven years, American families are suffering from a crisis of authority, where kids talk back at their parents, taking charge over a lot of things, and parents not enforcing authority and respect.
It is never okay to be a bad-mannered child, but how can a millennial parent deal with a disrespectful child? Here are five ways to handle disrespectful kids at home and bring back authority in the house:
1. Don’t let the kids use their phones unsupervised.
Nowadays, it’s quite common to find young kids using their gadgets even early in the morning and at the wee hours at night. Parents should remember that kids still need adult supervision when it comes to using phones.
2. A rude child is one that lacks attention.
Sometimes, kids lash out because they think that it is the only way to receive the attention they want, so spend more time with the kids through a scheduled family time.
What you can do:
- Daily family dinner at home
- Weekly game nights
- Movie time
- Scheduled picnic every Sunday
- Quick camping trip
3. Stay calm and composed throughout power struggles.
If you want your kid to be more respectful, be a living example. Stand on your ground while acting with integrity, even if he is throwing insults at you.
Here are several phrases you can practice:
“I am happy to listen, but not until you are calm.”
“I don’t listen to people who yell at me.”
“I won’t listen to people who talk to me in that manner.”
“I am sorry you’re angry, but stop.”
“That was disrespectful. Would you like to try it again with a nicer voice?”
4. Choose your battles; not all battles are worth the fight.
In other words, don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. Stomping of the feet, walking away, and ignoring you may sometimes be your kid’s way of expressing his disagreement.
Know that your child is entitled to his own emotions, just like everybody else. However, do take it seriously when your child’s actions are directly aimed toward you, or to another individual, like his peers and siblings. It is not just a mild disagreement; it is an utter disrespect.
5. Be a parent and a teacher to your kid.
As a parent, it is your job to be the kids’ coach, teacher, and limit setter. You have to teach them how to behave, manage their frustrations, and set limits when things go out of hand.
It is your responsibility to turn your kids into a well-functional adult who are emotionally, physically, and financially capable to function in the society. Remember than it is easier to build strong children than repair broken men.